要成為領導者，開始改變你的行為

要成為領導者，無論是成為企業組織中的領導者，或是朋友圈中有影響力的人，甚至是成為家庭中的家長，你都必須開始改變你的行為。

不改變自己，最壞的現象，就是別人不認為你想要接受他們，願意領導與服務他們。那麼，他們爲什麽要接受你的領導，尊崇你的地位呢？

從現在起，開始建立你的新行為模式：

1. 掌握要改變的主動權。不要等待別人來告訴你應該開始改變你自己，更不能對自己說我沒有能力改變自己。你必須告訴自己你願意改變，也能夠改變。
2. 要有耐心。改變需要時間。但是，你必須抱持正面積極的態度，耐心等待改變的美好果實。然而，要知道你的期待不一定會以你原來想像的形式出現， 過程與條件會調整最後的成果形式。即使如此，你也要抱著感恩的態度來接受。這樣，你會更有動力去迎接下一個挑戰，并享受更多的美好。
3. 接受改變過程中的困難。真正的改變，必須要你做出真正的努力。一旦決定要有改變，開始採取行動，就準備好你會遇到你無法預期到的意外狀況。
4. 避免其他誘惑。許多時候，在你改變與發展的過程中，總會出現其他的誘惑，引導你去分心。你有必要弄清楚自己要達成的目標是什麽，優先次序是什麽，更重要的，是很實際的評估自己究竟有多少能量來承擔多樣的項目。
5. 不要貪心，謹慎維護。一旦你開始看到了初期的成果，不要因此而輕易提高你的急切心理。要知道，後續可能會有各種狀況，會讓你承受不住高限的承擔能力。你只要享受得到小成果、階段的進步，勻稱的繼續做下去 ，這樣可以讓你改變的行動成為你能夠掌握的模式。

To be a leader, start changing your behavior

To be a leader, whether it's a leader in an organization, an influential person in a circle of friends, or even a parent in a family, you have to start changing your behavior.

The worst thing about not changing yourself is that people don't think you want to accept them and are willing to lead and serve them. So why do they accept your leadership and respect your position?

Start building your new behavior model from now on:

1. Take the initiative to change. Don't wait for others to tell you that you should start to change yourself, let alone say to yourself that I can't change myself. You have to tell yourself that you are willing and able to change.
2. Be patient. Change takes time. But you have to be positive and patient and wait for the good results of change. However, it is important to know that your expectations will not necessarily take the form you originally imagined, and that the process and conditions will adjust the final outcome. Even so, you should accept it with gratitude. In this way, you will be more motivated to meet the next challenge and enjoy more.
3. Difficulties in accepting change. Real change requires real effort. Once you decide to make a change, start taking action, and be prepared for unexpected situations that you can't anticipate.
4. Avoid other temptations. Many times, in the process of your change and development, there will always be other temptations to guide you to distraction. It's necessary for you to figure out what your goals are, what your priorities are and, more importantly, how much energy you actually have to undertake a variety of projects.
5. Don't be greedy, be careful. Once you begin to see the initial results, don't easily heighten your eagerness. You know, follow-up may have a variety of situations, will make you unable to withstand the high limit of affordability. You can only enjoy small results, stages of progress, and continue to do it symmetrically, so that you can change your actions into a pattern you can master.