2017年9月8日 星期五

訓練自己成為樂觀者,而非悲觀者

領導者多半都是樂觀者,樂觀是有感染力的,它激勵人們奮發進取。
然而,這不代表領導者會忽略風險與實際的可行性。
有效的領導者,並非天生都是樂觀的,而是自我練習而得到改變的。
首先,他不是和人見面,就開口滔滔不絕的。他和你打完招呼后,會先拋出個問題,然後安靜的聽你陳述,他運用這短暫的時間判斷與思考,所以當他開口時,口氣是穩定、內容充實,給人信心。
同樣的方法,他在網上和你聊天,不會衝動,他思索后,才給予回應。有智慧的回答,一定是帶有邏輯與內容的,而非空洞的情緒。
接著,如果討論的內容要涉及啟動一項行動,他會用20 - 30分鐘左右來思考可行性,考慮各種行動的選項,快速考慮可能需要的資源與將要面臨的挑戰,以及所要達到的具體目標。當他想好後,給你的回應,就會顯得具體多了,也能夠引導你做同等層次的思考。
這個時候,他已經展現了他的領導魅力,你會覺得他是有智慧的。

下一步,他會用約一天的時間,檢驗過往的經驗,查詢相關的案例,檢查實際可以動用的資源,分析行動的後果,以及了解是否有能力克服對手的質疑反對。也就是說,在這一天的時間內,他是很務實的,不會讓自己的樂觀沖昏頭,但是也不是悲觀的想要放棄。
以上的練習,并不容易。人的內在性格不是那麼容易改變。但是,成功的領導者,會先看到機會,而非先想到困難。然後,他以穩定的回應來展現他的可靠度。你會因為他合理的思維態度,信任他,追隨他。
我過往的經驗是,一名滔滔不絕,不斷拋出他的主張的人,例如政治人物,反而不容易為人信任。相反的,出口就讓人覺得他是有執行力的人,容易成為領袖。至於那些只管悶頭做,當應聲蟲的,就只能一直是follower,聽人指示了。悲觀者,不一定能夠取得他人的信任,除非他提出解決方案。
寧可樂觀、務實,而非悲觀、沉默。

Train yourself to be an optimist, not a pessimist
Leaders are mostly optimists, optimism is contagious, and it motivates people to make progress.
However, this does not mean that leaders will ignore the feasibility of risk and reality.
Effective leaders are not born optimistic, but are self-trained to change.
First of all, he did not meet with people, and he opened his mouth. After he greets you, he will throw a question first, then listen to your statement quietly, he uses this short time to judge and think, so when he speaks, his voice is stable, full of content and gives confidence.
The same way, he chatted with you on the Internet, not impulsive, he thought, only to respond. A wise answer must have logic and content, not empty emotions.
Then, if the content of the discussion involves the initiation of an action, he will think about feasibility in about 20-30 minutes, consider various options of action, quickly consider the resources and challenges that will be faced, and the specific goals to be achieved. When he thinks well, the response to you will appear to be more specific and can guide you to think at the same level.
At this time, he has shown his leadership charm, you will think that he is intelligent.
Next, he will spend about a day checking past experience, inquiring relevant cases, checking actual resources that can be used, analyzing the consequences of action, and knowing whether he has the ability to overcome his opponent's questions and objections. That is to say, at this time of the day, he is very pragmatic, not let their optimism carried away, but it is not pessimistic, want to give up.
Such exercises above are not easy. The inner character of a man is not so easy to change. But a successful leader will see the opportunity first, not the difficulties first. He then responded with a steady response to show his reliability. You will follow him because of his rational thinking, and trust in him.
My experience in the past is that a person who is a constant and constantly throwing out his ideas, such as political figures, is not easy to trust. On the contrary, the export makes people feel that he is an executive, and it is easy to become a leader. As for those who just do what they do, they can only be followers and listen to instruction. A pessimist may not be able to gain the trust of others unless he offers a solution.

It would rather be optimistic and pragmatic than be pessimistic and silent.